There’s no shame in being the child of an alcoholic

By Kathleen M. Falk, Dane County Executive

I am looking to help kids who have a parent with an alcohol or drug abuse problem. Adult alcoholism and drug abuse cloud the lives of over 11 million youth nationwide and more than 11,000 children under the age of 18 in Dane County.

Children of alcoholics and substance abusers require specific attention and assistance to understand what is happening in their families and to believe it is not their fault. Connecting children of alcoholics or drug users with resources is critical to helping them help themselves.

Research shows that denial, and the reluctance of families to talk about these problems often make it tough for children to cope with these issues. Consequently, children of alcoholics or drug abusers don’t always understand what is happening. Some believe it is their fault. Some live in fear. Most feel confused or ashamed. These feelings may stay with a child long after they’ve left home and may lead to other problems for children later in life.

I have launched a “No Shame” initiative to reach out to children under 18, but the message also strikes a chord with adults. Alcoholism and drug addiction are diseases. We all need to help children recognize this fact and understand that while they don’t have the power to cure their parents, they can help themselves.

The one thing we can do for these kids is to be there for them, and to let them know they are not alone in dealing with the problems they are facing.

Resources exist in Dane County to help kids in these situations, and we want to make people more aware of where to turn when they need to talk with someone who understands their situation, and learn ways to make things better for themselves.

The “No Shame” initiative connects young people who are concerned about their parent’s drinking or drug use with First Call for Help, a confidential 24‑hour telephone helpline operated by United Way of Dane County.

People living in and around Madison can call the Helpline at 608-246-HELP (608-246-4357). It's confidential, so they won't tell anyone you called unless you tell them to. You can also go on-line for programs and organizations that provide information and help.

Posters will be distributed through schools, youth centers and faith organizations encouraging children to call the helpline or log on to <www.noshame.info>. The Web site contains information to help children of alcoholics take control or be educated through links to various online resources.

Many people were involved in making this outreach effort possible. I am particularly grateful to Zillman Advertising, Marketing and Public Relations for developing the materials that we are using, and to Adams Outdoor Advertising for donating billboard space throughout Dane County.

Information and resources are available on-line at www.noshame.info. Also, you can contact me at (608) 266-4114, or at falk@co.dane.wi.us to request copies of the poster and other materials.

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